Each Human Soul has a different “code” through which it receives Vital Force Energy. What we call “Soul” is a quantum technology. In its purest form, Life Force Energy has no quality except its infinite potential to become anything, meaning it is everything and nothing simultaneously.
Soul is a technology which gives a specific quality to that which is infinite. That particular quality is above Human free will and unchangeable from the level of being Human. We have a choice: honour it (and find fulfilment) or rebel against it (and suffer). Our unique Soul has a specific quality/blueprint which, when we align our human choices with it, allows for a significant inflow of Vital Force Energy and an expansive existence.
We have the option to align our choices to who we were designed to be as a Soul, or we can choose not to. When we do, our Human Vessel becomes an embodiment of our Soul, and when we decide not to, then disconnection will become bigger and bigger.
When a human being, for many incarnations, chooses to act against its original design, against the nature of its Soul, the supply of Vital Force Energy shrinks more and more, until it is no longer available.
At that point, he relies entirely on an energy source from his environment, in this case, other people. In our culture, we call these Beings “Narcissists”.
That is why there is always a certain amount of drama, chaos, conflict, and emotional manipulation involved in the life of a narcissistic person. They receive recycled energy through emotional exchange and energetic intertwining. Emotions are an energy in motion, and the more extreme they are, the more charged they are, and the richer the supply they provide.
That is why truly narcissistic people are master manipulators and often create some sort of chaos and extreme emotions in all their environments. In truth, their existence depends on it. Loving, highly empathetic, open-hearted, and compassionate people are juicy prey because they are often ready to provide far more than is healthy for them, for far longer than anyone else.
The only choice we have in dealing with this kind of Soul, which has lost access to its unique energy source, is to either become its supply or not. We won’t “heal” them out of it, and we won’t directly help them. They do not look for our help, but our attention and emotional fuel.
These Beings are unknowingly great teachers of discernment, self-authority, and mind/heart coherence. They will show up in our experience when there is a need to learn about setting healthy boundaries, learning spiritual sovereignty or understanding one’s own power.
And because these “lessons”/energies are asked to be embodied by a large number of Beings to step ahead on the ascension journey, “narcissists” are currently playing a pivotal role in the evolution process. The critical point of choice where timelines split. On one side, there is significant self-empowerment and liberation, and on the other side, victimhood and co-dependency.
To sum up, narcissists are Souls who have lost access to their unique energy source, and they rely on “recycled” energy from other people. That is it. No matter how much we dig into these individuals’ psychological labyrinth and interpersonal dynamics, it will all boil down to this simple underlying truth. They will stick around for as long as you are willing to be their energy supply, and when you refuse to get involved, they will disappear from your life, because they need to get charged somehow. I would like to add that these people are not inherently evil or willing to cause harm.
They are unintentional, yet powerful teachers of getting out of victimhood mode. Because they expose the victim-perpetrator dynamic so well and serve as an opportunity to transmute that energy within oneself —once and for all. They can show up in our experience in many different forms; it does not have to be a “romantic” relationship at all.
If you’re not willing to perpetuate the cycle and get stuck in the “recovering from narcissistic abuse” phase, ask yourself these questions, and answer them as honestly as possible, even when it is not very comfortable. (especially when it’s not comfortable!):
- What did you hope to get out of the relationship with that person? Or what were you getting on your side of a deal?
- What did you try not to see about that person and why?
- What would you be DOING if you were not involved in such chaos? What are you avoiding?
- Why are you not focused on following your dreams and choosing to deal with narcissists instead? Why do you abandon yourself for the sake of……………?
- What are you afraid to discover about yourself when you’re alone, and why?
- Why are you giving more authority to other people than to your intuition, logic, and gut feeling?
- Compare your delusions about the person and your relationship with the facts. Why are you choosing delusion? How does seeing and accepting the truth make you feel? Why are you avoiding it?
Ask yourself as many questions as you feel, and as specifically as possible.
If you want to get the real deal treasure out of this, avoid labelling these people as bad and yourself as good, or a victim. Simply let yourself discover the shadow within you that their presence just helped you to see and bring to light. That is precisely why you have dealt with them in the first place.
They are not the villain when we choose not to be a victim.
Nobody forces us to make our choices. Understanding why we make them is where we begin to take responsibility.
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